Ok hunny...relax! You sound like you are getting yourself quite worked up about this and thats the first problem....it's really not going to help!

Now, Hubby! Trying for a baby can, for men, become almost mechanicial. I know, this is a problem my hubby and I had first time round. He felt like he became a sperm producing machine for my production line, and quite frankly, didn't find it sexy at all. Now there's lots you can do, but you need to do them all the time not just at your fertile time, or it still differentiates it. Let sex become more of a pleasure again at other times and it will be when you want it. Try showing him how much you want him all the time, and tell hom you want to make a baby out of your love, not just out of a physical act.

Now 4 months eems like an age to you....heck even 1 month seems a long time to most of us on here, but your doctor is right that you've probably not got a problem so far.....more like you just haven't caught an egg. Especially if your having timing issues!

So, I'd probably suggest a good old read of some of the other threads on here to learn a little bit about what your body is doing and why you are getting the signs that you are, and maybe start charting to track your cycle. Then you can really find out whats whats and work out when your most fertile time is. We spent months previously making love from days 10 to 16 frantically, collapsing into an exhausted heap and not goign near one another for a few days,...and then found out I didn't Ov until day 17 and 18!

Oh, and don't obsess at home about ti......that can be quite off-putting for the fella's......thats what us girls are all here for!

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Oh, and yes both alcohol and caffiene can do wierd and wonderful things to our fertility, but then when you consider the amount of people that have got preggars doing the moonlight horizontal shuffle after 14 Vodka and Coke's then I wouldn't beat yourself up too much just yet.

Try and cut it to low levels, and just be healthy!

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Try to chill out about it all honey, yes you do need to BD on the right days (or there abouts) but by using OPK's you can really pinpoint when that is.

I do think a lot of men find the whole TTC experience a bit over whelming, try to talk to your OH. Communication really is the key to making TTC more fun!

I know my DF has taken time to really understand that there really are only 3/4 days a month when his get to party with an egg ... before that he just thought I was being melodramatic, I gave him Zita West's book to read (well .. I left it open on the right page by the bed )
CM is a weird thing, we are all totally different and some women get more/less/different consistancy to others ... once it gets copious, you get Ov pains etc its a pretty good sign O is looming or arrived.

As cris stated, try using FF and relax, cutting out caffeine and alcohol is a good thing .. but remember that you cannot put your entire life on hold for TTC .. you still have to live and enjoy life!

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Hi Godess2011,

Sounds like the girls have given you some great advice, theres not much else I can add other than good luck with your TTC journey, I hope you get your BFP very soon ... ;D

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