yesterday i started my fertility application..

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5 posts on this thread and the last post was on February 24th, 2011 5:26 PM by cuttys

Betsky - February 23rd, 2011 5:38 PM

Hi to all...

after waiting 6 months for it I had my second fertility appt. yesterday.

I started off annoyed cos the appt was at 4.00 - i had been nervous all day - couldnt sleep the night before and was on the loo most of the morning - and we didnt get seen till 5.50!!! AND the first thing the doctor said to me when I went in (bearing in mind this is a fertiltiy clinic) was 'so, you're not pregnant yet then' !!!!!! my DH thought I was going to kill him.

so i sat there with a face like thunder and he said my 2-3 day tests were fine so that cheered me up.

my DH's second sperm results came back as 131m count but 8% morphology (when they reccommend 15%). the doctor said he wasnt worried cos the count was so high BUT he wants him to have further more detailed tests to see the quality of the 8% - has anyone had any experience of this test - as I am not comforted by it. My DH is running around really proud of his 131m - but I am just stressing about the 8% - talk about seeing glases half empty!!

anyway - so then he said to me 'and we'll then go on from there with you after your husband has done hs test'. at which I went mad - there is a 6 month waiting list for appt. for the fertility clinic (which is only held on afternoon a week for the entire bloomin county) so there was no way I waiting that again.

so i started going on about the fact that we have been trying for 2.5 years with not a whiff of a bfp, that i have extremely light periods and that I have spotting from 10dpo. I said that from the research I had done i would like a laparoscopy and would like investigations into the spotting. AND i couldnt believe it when he got all embarressed and said 'okay then'. so now I have a laparoscopy and hysterogram (sorry not sure how to spell it) in two months time and then he said they will give me an ultrasound in my luteal phase to check my spotting.

i couldn't beleive it - and i couldn't beleive i can have the lap so soon - after everything I have said about the NHS - i forgive them.

I think going in there with knowledge isnt a bad thing!!

so on the one hand I am v v v v vhappy that things are moving on -I just need to know what is wrong with me - but also worried about my DH and my operation.

But all in all at least I now have a new focus so v releived.

any advice from those of you who have been here and doen this would be very much appreciated.

sminn99 - February 23rd, 2011 5:43 PM

Unfortunately I can't give you any advise, but I'm so glad everyting seems to be moving in the right direction for you

I think I might take some of your advise as I have had all my bloods done and had a scan but I am STILL waiting for the next stage...think I'll start getting a bit tougher

Thanks & good luck xx

Burei - February 24th, 2011 4:43 PM

First of all i'm so proud of you for putting your foot downa nd demanding more tests You go!!!!

Ok...i've had 2 laps and scheduled for a 3rd one next month. It is scary going in there, its only natural to be nervous. Basically after the general anaesthetic, you don't feel or remember a thing...you wake up with a drip on and hooked up to heart monitor...you feel a bit sore, a bit or AF cramping.

After you have something to eat and wake up a bit you can go home. You will be sore for 1-2 weeks and they'll give you pain killers to help. You will also be extrememly bloated for a good week and in this time they advise you not to do much - drive, lift, work etc.

For me, my first lap I was fine about about 4 days...my 2nd one took me almost 2 weeks to recover and I was in a lot of pain.

Now...the more advanced sperm test your DH is having. My DH has had 2 of these (and 3 regular lab ones) they're a lot more conclusive and don't be surprised if his count, motility and morpology is lower than usual with these tests because they're very strict with what is and isn't viable. They also check for things such as DNA damage, anti sperm antibodies and there is another one (probably more) that I can't think of but basically its sperm that can fertilize and egg but it is immature and pregnancies cannot go to term and eventuate in m/c.

Good luck with everything and let me know if you have anymore questions.

Hearty - February 24th, 2011 4:50 PM

First of all i'm so proud of you for putting your foot downa nd demanding more tests You go!!!![br /]
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Ok...i've had 2 laps and scheduled for a 3rd one next month. It is scary going in there, its only natural to be nervous. Basically after the general anaesthetic, you don't feel or remember a thing...you wake up with a drip on and hooked up to heart monitor...you feel a bit sore, a bit or AF cramping.[br /]
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After you have something to eat and wake up a bit you can go home. You will be sore for 1-2 weeks and they'll give you pain killers to help. You will also be extrememly bloated for a good week and in this time they advise you not to do much - drive, lift, work etc.[br /]
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For me, my first lap I was fine about about 4 days...my 2nd one took me almost 2 weeks to recover and I was in a lot of pain.[br /]
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Now...the more advanced sperm test your DH is having. My DH has had 2 of these (and 3 regular lab ones) they're a lot more conclusive and don't be surprised if his count, motility and morpology is lower than usual with these tests because they're very strict with what is and isn't viable. They also check for things such as DNA damage, anti sperm antibodies and there is another one (probably more) that I can't think of but basically its sperm that can fertilize and egg but it is immature and pregnancies cannot go to term and eventuate in m/c.[br /]
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Good luck with everything and let me know if you have anymore questions.

Edaeb - February 24th, 2011 5:02 PM

You know with guys its a manly thing. I think they're so afraid of a bad result and if something is wrong they don't feel like a man. I know thats the case with my DH. So perhaps your DH is happy knowing his count is good and just wants to stay in that safe place, afraid that if the results come up bad that he will feel less of a man?

I'm ok but i'm pretty sure I know the result...I think levels have dropped off because POAS this morning and still BFN...probably better off that way since it would most likely be unviable. Thanks for thinking of me

cuttys - February 24th, 2011 5:26 PM

good for you betsky..wish all good luck!