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I havent told my husband but I'm calling it quits at 40. I guess its just not meant to be. I will just have to learn to accept it. |
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For us its more of a funding issue. So we are seeking treatments while we can afford it. Age also comes into play as we are in our mid 30's now. I cant imagine getting pregnant after 40. |
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I think if you really wanted something, you never should set a deadline in it. It will make you get more pressured and frustrated. Setting a deadline is for me, not good. |
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"I think if you really wanted something, you never should set a deadline in it. It will make you get more pressured and frustrated. Setting a deadline is for me, not good." |
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I agree with Mitch. Hope is a good thing but you have to stop at some point. I plan to go and exhaust all options if I still cannot get pregnant by 42 then I guess that's the end of the road for us. My hubby and I already agreed coz its hard on my body plus he constantly worries for me. So enough is enough at that point. |
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Infertility treatments are expensive and not all procedures are covered by insurance. I dont want to get pregnant but be in debt. So financially when our savings are exhausted then its time to call it quits. Physically when I reach 40 then I promised Darren I would stop. Emotionally, I am nearing my limit. It's so frustrating! |
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to Erica_Wills: |
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Knowing when to stop is the key. We have a fund set up. This was originally for our future child's college fund and we decided to dip into it for treatment since there was no child yet to begin with. We are already 50% into the fund which we have built up over the last 10 years (we married at 25). |
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We have had 4 rounds of IVF with Clomid and Bavelle. I am 41 and my partner is 43. One more round and then we look into adoption. Although I am not giving up yet, I have been under different forms of fertility treatments for the last 13 years. I am tired. I am not giving up on a child and if adoption is the only way, then so be it. |
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having fertility treatment is stressful personally, on the relationship and on the wallet. Personally, I want to stop before 40. There are tense moments in our relationship especially when I get my period. This means we have failed...again. It makes me insecure even though I know my husband loves me and this creates a very tense atmosphere at home. |